Showing posts with label discipler. Show all posts
Showing posts with label discipler. Show all posts

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Going Somewhere? Disciple Your Children

Jesus...said to them, "All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth. Go, therefore, and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe everything I have commanded you. And remember, I am with you always, to the end of the age." (Matthew 28:18-20 HCSB)

Other than John 3:16, these verses are probably the most spoken verses in any of our churches. They have been used for the revival sermons, Sunday morning sermons, and certainly in our Sunday School lessons. But, sometimes I think we have missed the point of this overarching command of the Lord Jesus.
The actual understanding of this verse is not "go ye therefore," but as you are going, make disciples. Does that make sense? You see, that changes everything. It means that wherever we go, whatever we do, whoever we're with, we are to...wait for it... wait for it... MAKE DISCIPLES.

This is a game changer. It means that when we are at work, we are looking to make disciples. When we are at play, we are looking to make disciples. When we are with our family, our goal is to make disciples.
The importance of this verse is when you look at what the Bible says about our children, our wives, our husbands, those who are in our family, doesn't it make sense that our goal is to make disciples of them? What I mean is, if Matthew 28:18-20 is the Great Commission, then we must make disciples even with our family. I am using "even" as a word to describe how important it is that we disciple our families. It is a priority.
You see, this is what is called the "integration" of the Gospel into our everyday lives. The gospel is not only something that we teach on Sunday morning, preach at revival, or what we share do on visitation on Tuesday night. It becomes our life.

Here then is my point: the gospel is much more like Deuteronomy 6 than it is our modern 21st century idea of sharing the gospel or making a disciple in a church classroom somewhere. When the Word of God tells us that wherever we go, it means that. The example given in Deuteronomy 6 is this: when we go with our children on the road (our cars), sit down (at the dinner table), or when we lie down (put them to bed at night), we disciple them. It's what we shared a few weeks ago in our sermon and blog in what we called "God talk".

But, isn't it just more than talk? Sure it is. It means that not only does our speech reflect Jesus Christ living in us, it also means that our lives reflect Jesus Christ living in us. That is where true disciples are made. It is when our lives back up our speech. That is how we make disciples.

Now, read this with me:
Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so they won't become discouraged. (Colossians 3:21 HCSB)
So, when you read this verse keeping in mind that we are to make disciples of our children, it makes sense that we shouldn't make them angry and frustrated with us. This is what the Bible terms as "exasperate" them. Why don't we do that? Because we are making them disciples. It is much more important that our children become disciples than it is we raise them to make us happy, or to give them a great place on the soccer team, or to make sure they get first chair in the orchestra. Truth be told, we are placing our emphasis on all the wrong things. Our children's eternal decision to recieve eternal life is to be a disciple of Jesus Christ. That is so much more important, infinitely more important, than any extra-curricular activity that we could get them into after school. Compared to discipleship, aren't those things rather silly?


As parents, you and I are building disciples for the kingdom of God. As important as it might seem right now, getting A's is not near is important as making a disciple. As critical as it might seem right now that your child become a great baseball player, it is much more important that we teach our children to be disciples than to catch a fastball. Can these activities help us make disciples? Of course they can. But it's more about spending time with them for the purpose of discipleship, not about forming a new skill for them to be good at. Really, your child wants you and your time, not the accolades and trophies.

So, how 'bout it? Are you ready to become a disciple-making parent? Are you ready to change the way you think about your children? You can start today with these resources: Simple memory verses & Building families.

Let's start a movement together. Let's be those disciple-making parents.

Pastor Trey Rhodes


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Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Becoming a Parent that Disciples



I thought it would be good to take a look at the steps we can take to get started on the road to better parenting. God wants so much for our children to grow up and be all they can be. So much of that begins at an early age. I've always said that we're fooling ourselves if we can't break our child's will when they are 2 and then think we will be able to deal with them when they are 12. As difficult as it is, we must break their will (not their spirit) when they are young. My children can attest to what it takes...great love, great discipline, and TIME. I love my children greatly but never backed away from the hard part of parenting, discipline.

I also like how John Rosemond uses a much more biblical word for who we are to be to them: disciplers. Our responsibility is to disciple our children. What could happen to the church if we changed from being child raisers to become child disciplers. Now, that's powerful. When we choose to live as disciplers,  it's as much work on me as it is for them.

Here's some great ways to start the process:

1. Teach Christian values. As parents we need to identify, live, and communicate our values. If we value truth and honesty, we must be honest and adhere to biblical standards. We need to believe and teach our teens that the only truth in the world that matters is in the Scriptures. You are deceived, because you don’t know the Scriptures or the power of God (Matt. 22:29).

2. Express love and acceptance of our children. Even when their behavior disappoints us, we must continue to let them know that we love them. Genuine love for our children will grow out of our awareness that we are genuinely loved by God. It’s not always easy, but unconditional love is necessary. We also need to teach our children about God’s love. God’s love is solid and secure. He adopted us into His family, and He knows our needs and will provide them. Your teens need to know and accept these truths.

3. Be consistent with discipline. Our goal is that our children will ultimately become self-disciplined and self-controlled. If discipline does not eventually become internal, no amount of outside pressure to conform will make a teenager a spiritually healthy person.

4. Pray continually for and about our children. God is more concerned for them than we possibly can be, so He welcomes our conversations with Him about them. With every prayer and request, pray at all times in the Spirit, and stay alert in this, with all perseverance and intercession for all the saints (Eph. 6:18).

5. Worship together as a family. Participating in regular worship, both corporately and personally, will move us all toward spiritual health. Again, I cannot hope that my child will grow to be a faithful worshiper of the Lord if I refuse to do so myself. Let worship become a lifestyle for you, and your teens will likely catch it from you. Also, remember that personal and family worship are important as well.

6. Be active participants in the work of the church. Remember to balance your time with your family and in your church activities; but, again, if you want your youth to participate in church activities, you must do the same. Dropping them off at youth or children's activities will not teach them to be faithful church members.

7. Participate in ministries that are designed for you as a parent. Not every church does this, but when a seminar or class is offered to help parents be better at their jobs, be sure to go. It will communicate volumes to your teen when they see that you are trying to improve in your parenting skills. 

In addition to these great thoughts, you might want to resource my article, Building a Family.

Pastor Trey Rhodes


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